For this interview, I am trying to get into a perspective of someone that is close to my age group. With this choice, I believe it would help me to more visualise some familiar technologies that relevant to the scenario and based on an existed technology. I end up interviewing my peer, who is a second-year animation student, Inez. Here is my interview with her and her perspective towards love, technology, and the future of both.
Q: Hello! Thank you for being part of this interview. You are busy with uni projects, right?
A: Nah, that’s alright! Let’s start!
Q: Sure, let’s start with the basic question. What do you think love is?
A: Love is something that is not a tangible thing that experienced by people. It could be a desire, passion, or a relationship between two people depending how they living their life. Love could come in a lot of different ways.
Q: You mentioned something about two people. Do you think love is possible to occur if there is only one person?
A: It is possible, but it will be different.
Q: What do you mean by that?
A: Um, you know love because you have been feeling it since the beginning of time and everything, but in relationship you expect someone to feel, to do something, But, it feels like a game where you don’t know what (he) gonna feel or do. It is a two ways of perspective feeling. But if we talk about self-love, you are doing it, receiving something from yourself. You are the one that know what you want and all you expect is yourself, do you get what I mean?
Q: Ah yeah. So, are you trying to say that self-love is different from relationship between two people?
A: Yeah definitely! Love is always different. Even friendship is love but it is different right? It just different amount, different feeling of love that you receive from either yourself or other.
Q: Um, so what do you think self-love is? Do you think that you have given enough love for yourself?
A: I think everyone will give enough amount of love for themselves. Until something happens.
Q: What do you mean by that?
A: It is actually based on my experience, but it is formed by your entire environment, the way you deal with things, people who surround you. But as far as I know people love themselves until something happens, something traumatizes them affecting their way. Like they had something that making them to start doubting themselves, like the person they are right now is not perfect. But yeah, loving yourself is what 2018 about. It is about accepting yourself even if you are transsexual, gay, queer, or whatever that is.
Q: Alright, but these days, some people are choosing to focus on themselves. Some people choose to have a good career, following their dream and passion. Do you think that it is part of self-love?
A: Like what?
Q: Some people choose to not get married to achieve something that they wanted to do. Like Jennifer Aniston chooses to not have any child because she wants to be a huge star and having her own family will affect her career because she stated that she won’t be able to balance her life. Do you agree with that?
A: Here’s the thing about self-love, when you love yourself too for too much, you feel that you don’t need somebody else or you feel enough already because you already found out what you are as an identity. So it’s kinda like saying that identity as love. People have different personality, people have different ways of thinking. If they think they can achieve, getting what they want just by having themselves is okay. But the thing is that they just want to find the idea of what life is. If they think that love is something that they can give to themselves and they don’t need people or things or relationship is okay, but most of the time people have things that distract themselves. Some people don’t really have human-to-human relationship, maybe more like human-to-thing.
Q: Human-to-thing?
A: It is like human to dream, human to passion. Like they know what they like, they know what they want to do, they don’t need human to tell them. They just feel ‘this is what this is’.
Q: That’s a good answer. But they thing about love nowadays is there also thing called love to inanimate objects. I’m not sure how to explain that, but I am trying to say objects that escalate your status like money etc. Its more like materialistic kind of thing. Do you agree with that way of thinking? Is it part of self-love?
A: It is a part of love. It just doesn’t have lust. The thing about love is that you want to experience sexual stuffs. But when you don’t think about those sexual stuffs, it’s still loves but it’s a different thing. Like for example you love your mom but you don’t think her in any of those way. The same way exists for those materials, objects stuffs. It is like you treasure them a lot as something that has been part of your life and it takes process to achieve them. You keep them as a precious thing. So, I think it is self-love because you have desire to own it, to make it as a part of your life.
Q: That’s an amazing answer! So, about this subject. We are talking about future. What do you think love will be in future? What will change about love?
A: A lot of things will happen. Love itself has improved already these days like people is okay with gay, bi(sexual), there also been a lot of LGBTQ movement going on. So I don’t think love can be improved more than that just because right now it feels enough for everything.
Q: How about technology? Will there be technology that invented to improve those stuffs?
A: What are those stuffs?
Q: The LGBTQ movement stuffs. Something that can be used to support the movement.
A: I don’t get why there need to be technology to improve love. I mean I get it that It makes thing easier. But you lost the human touch relationship because of that. You could think “Ah, I could connect with people because I have phone” but you don’t actually connect with them because you don’t really know what they feel. But in the past, when you like a girl, like you have to send a message to her. You have to go to the post office then wait for a week and such. The feeling of love that you get was actually bigger than you feel nowadays. Like for example, Tinder. It is basically you text people. It just that you don’t get the same amount of love than in the past. So if you are saying that you want to make a technology to improve relationship between human, it will feel okay during that time just because we are so used to have these modern technologies. But again, personally if you compare to how it was in the past, it is simpler. Love felt more real than now.
Q: Do you think we are heading toward that direction? (technology becomes an obstacle between human relationship and having negative effect towards love).
A: We are! We are going into technological kind of direction. Um, I think if they are trying to create another technology, they maybe create something that enables you to not be physically there anymore. It could be just like a VR, you don’t have to actually meet the person to get into relationship. I don’t know if that is a good thing,
Q: So basically you are saying if technology is getting more advance, people will be distanced. But do you think people will still use those technologies?
A: Yeah!
Q: Even if they don’t connect with people?
A: Because I live in the time where there wasn’t any advanced technology. I live in a time where I didn’t have phone that I can message people all the time. But like kids nowadays are about technologies, they watch ipad as tv and stuffs. It just a normal thing for them. That is why some old people used to say ‘back in my time, we don’t have this, this, and this’, I think the bigger the technologies are, it won’t guarantee that things will be better.
Q; Okay. Connected to my future scenario, my group develop a scenario where beauty standard becomes a socio currency. This scenario refers to a condition where resources are getting harder to be obtained, which only achievable by the riches where the poor are trying to fit in while achieving that beauty standard, but limited due to the economic issue. Do you think that it will be our possible future?
A: If it a self-love? Why there should be any beauty standard? If they really love themselves, they will not think about beauty standard anymore. It will be more about accepting yourself, your identity as who you are. Accepting whatever you look. So where is the self-love if they still focusing on the look.
Q: So, do you think love is not getting improved in this scenario?
A: I don’t get why you keep saying love need to be improved. Love is not technology. It cannot be improved because it is not something that human create. Feeling love is something that you feel for yourself. The way you love people and the way I love people is different. For example, ‘I can receive this big amount of love while you are receiving smaller amount of love but you still think it is love because it’s the biggest love you ever received from people”. What I am trying to say is, love is about what you feel. It cannot be improved because it just happens the way it is.
Q: So, what do you expect from love in the future that are technology related?
A: I don’t think there is none. Technology will still be there because we are so used to it, and living without one will be so weird. I think what to be expect is how people limit themselves from technology. Back to the materialistic thing, it feels like people value their phone more than people surround them. So, if you are making a scenario where there needed technology to support or improve human love, out future is doomed. But if that happens, the only needed technology is the ones that could make human-to-human relationship to work. It might be ironic, but it might be a technology versus technology.
Q: Based on your answer, I am more thinking about the worst-case scenario. What is the worse one that related to technology?
A: It would be like I said. You might have a first date, but its not human-to-human. It will be you love things, more than you love actual human. And you value the things rather than your human relationship. Its like you love the technology but you thought you love human, but it actually a technology that making up that image and you don’t even actually know that person as a human.
Q: Alright that’s it! You have given a lot of wonderful answers. Thank you so much for your time!
A: Oh that’s it? You are welcome! Its been a pleasure to help!